Retired New Jersey-based child psychologist Beth Grosshans has more than two decades of experience. She has leveraged her extensive experience in the field to guide parents with Beyond Time Out, a parenting book that enlightens ineffective parenting approaches and provides guidance on reestablishing control. In this book, Beth Grosshans addresses issues resulting from parents exalting specialness in their kids and avoiding childhood disappointment.
Feeling disappointed is unpleasant for people of all ages since it involves feelings of loss and discouragement. Naturally, you don’t want your child to experience negative emotions such as this, but as a result, you may do everything in your power to keep your child from experiencing this particular emotion. However, disappointment plays a major role in how children develop emotionally, socially, and intellectually.
Without disappointment, children cannot develop the tools they need to handle life’s ups and downs as adults, nor can they develop the creative thinking, emotional resilience, and collaboration skills they could otherwise rely on during the rest of their childhood and adulthood.
Instead of going out of your way to prevent disappointment in your kids, focus on teaching them how to cope with disappointment in a healthy way. To do this, you must first have a good attitude towards disappointment. Show children that disappointment is a normal part of life and that they can learn from feeling disappointed.
It’s also important that you do not overpraise your children when they feel disappointed or save them from setbacks. Doing so is detrimental to children since these behaviors teach them to depend on praise for validation or to avoid trying new things.
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